Do you make a pre-matured decision before having all the information you need?
I did. Now the regrets come flowing into my mind and soul urging me to rectify the situation that I am being stuck with right now. It was a pre-matured decision as I wasn’t able to predict the events that happened one month after joining the new organisation. The reasons that I had decided to join vanished into thin air following the events that happened. Now, I am stuck in a hole that I didn’t want to be in the first place.
Have you ever made a decision prematurely without having all the information that you need? Most of us would at some point in our life make such a decision. We may not be fully conscious that we have made such a decision depending on whether we reflect upon the decision that we made. That reflection may in fact depends on whether there is a need for us to reflect in the first place. Usually when the outcome of the decision is good, we are less likely to think back on the decision we have made. It probably because we are more engaged and looking forward to the favourable (personal, business, relationship, societal, work, philosophical, religious) outcome. However, when things took another turn, the outcome wasn’t as expected. It is more likely for us to reflect and question ourselves why we have made such a decision in the first place. That’s what is happening to me right now.
For me, I think there are decisions where you are able to take a U-turn and make a new decision in hope that the outcome would be better this time round. On the other side of the coin, there are decisions made which are irreversible and you’ll have to accept your current situation as it is. Only after acceptance then you could sit down objectively to consider ways in which you are improve the situations and evaluate your options. Things may be irreversible for now, but you can always work towards a better future. It’s not easy but it’d be worthwhile. No doubt you could be depressed like me for the past few weeks. That doesn’t mean that there is no way out. It is unavoidable but you need to move on at some point in time. Some may see this is part and parcel of life. Others may see this as their luck or even fate. For me, I prefer to see it as an experience and a chance to learn. You could reflect and learn from the wrong decision that you have made and do better the next time you face similar situation. The fact that I’m able to still learn and change comforts me a lot during these few weeks.
Of course, one might argue that different people have different situations. When things happened that are outside of their controls, it is not easy to see any hope and opportunities to learn. I’ve been in such situation for years at an extremely young age. No doubt I was already jaded before I stepped into the working society. The experiences I had made it worst. And in this crossroad, you still have a choice to decide: 1. To move on, or 2. To give up totally. Wait, there might be additional choices: 3. To wait and determine whether living this life would be worthwhile, 4. To seek help around… Depending on how and what you are able to come up with. Depending whether the people around you are helpful and able to guide and advise you. Every crossroad may lead to a different path. A path that you’d very much like to be in. A path that you find harder to walk and move forward. Then seek again for a way that you’ll feel better to take and believe that it will lead you to a better future. However, we’ll never have all the information we need to make such a decision in the first place. Too much variables and unpredictability in life.
